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What I learned about calmness while navigating conflicts and working on myself
Calmness breeds calmness. It is one of the traits of a leader that can save a team from spiralling down into endless conflict or unproductive discussions. Why is it important? How to work on it? Let’s dive in 🤿
Why is it essential?☝🏼
Calmness creates a container to hold uncomfortable discussions and helps to alleviate some of the emotions. I define it as staying attentive, curious, focused, and respectful and not taking things personally.
It helps to keep the prefrontal cortex (responsible for logical thinking) “working” instead of going into fight or flight responses. When people are high on emotions, the way they process can be impeded significantly. They might not be able to understand logical argumentation.
What is calmness not? ❌
It’s not about blocking your expression but rather managing your emotions. It’s not about being indifferent but more about focusing on the argumentation. It’s not about imposing calmness on others but making it resonate with the group.
How to work on it? 🏋🏼♂️
Don’t take things personally 😐
